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Communication

This section covers hearing others clearly, stating needs, and giving feedback without needless damage—in service of the relationship, not “winning.”

After reading you should: pick a frame before hard talks → express structurally → close loops with feedback.

Module overview

TopicPathCore question
ListeninglisteningHear and confirm understanding
FeedbackfeedbackGive and receive

60-second pre-conversation

QuestionWrite answer
My goal?Understand / request / negotiate / apologize
Their likely goal?Hypothesis—validate in talk
My line?See boundaries
Best timing?Not rushed; private if needed

Four-step expression (NVC-lite)

  1. Observation (fact): “In three meetings this week you arrived 10+ minutes late”
  2. Feeling: “I feel anxious / disappointed”
  3. Need: “I need us to respect everyone’s time”
  4. Request: “Could you join 5 minutes early—or message if you can’t?”

Hard conversation checklist

  • I listened and reflected their view
  • I-statements for feelings, not “you always”
  • Request is specific and checkable
  • If heated, agreed pause time—not ghosting