Family and friendship are long-cycle relationships: maintenance, clear boundaries, and realistic expectations beat one “big talk.”
Module overview
| Topic | Path | Core question |
|---|
| Family | family | Roles, expectations, holidays, money |
| Friendship | friendship | Depth, frequency, life stages |
Relationship inventory (annual)
| Person | Type | Desired cadence | Actual | Next step |
|---|
| Family / close / casual | weekly / monthly / quarterly | | call / meal / honest talk |
You don’t owe equal energy to everyone—explicit choice beats guilt.
Minimum effective dose
| Tie | Suggestion |
|---|
| Core family | Fixed rhythm (e.g. 20 min weekly call) |
| Close friends | Monthly quality time + occasional spontaneous |
| Casual friends | Holidays, major life events |
Conflict principles
- Long game > winning the argument—“Will I want to speak in five years?”
- Money and care duties in writing, not vibes alone.
- Partner vs origin family: align as a couple before broadcasting outward.